我们如何抱怨？How to complain？

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我们如何抱怨？How to complain？

如何用英语『抱怨』

抱怨用英语怎么说

抱怨英语

一、我们如何抱怨？How to complain？

Almost everyday with slightly dispiriting inevitability, someone in our vicinity will hurt us in some way.

几乎每一天，带着有点令人沮丧的必然性，我们周遭的人会以某些方式伤害我们。

It could be a friend, a colleague, a child or, most likely, a partner.

可能是一位朋友、同事、孩子，或最有可能的，伴侣。

They'll be neglectful of something that matters immensely to us.

他们会忽略某些对我们来说非常重要的事。

They'll be, to a greater or lesser extent, unkind, thoughtless, offensive or brusque.

他们会，或多或少地，不友善、轻率、冒犯人的或唐突的。

We may never have given much thought to observing the way we characteristically respond.

我们可能从未仔细地去观察自己典型的回应方式。

And yet, our style of reacting to maltreatment goes right to the heart of who we are and can make the difference between: A life of constant frustration and bitterness and one of tolerable coexistence.

然而，我们应对不友善对待的方式直指出我们是谁，并能造就差异于：受到长期挫折与苦难的人生，与还算可以共存相处的人生。

A crucial part of the art of living seems to lie in knowing how to complain constructively and sanely to those who do us wrong.

生存艺术中很关键的一部分似乎就存在于了解如何有建设性地、理性地抱怨对那些待我们不佳的人。

There are broadly 3 main ways in which one might complain.

大致来说，主要有三种抱怨的方式

The first is live fury.

第一种是实况的愤怒表现

Here, we explode, shout, insult, belittle and attempted to crush our opponent.

我们暴怒、吼叫、侮辱、轻视他人，并且试图粉碎我们的对手。

What lies behind this response is, at heart, panic and agitation and a catastrophic feeling of hurt and betrayal.

这种反应背后的其实是心中的恐慌及激动不安以及对于受伤与背叛的灾难式感受。

The slight to our dignity cuts us so deep, unsettled us so much, we attempt to ROAR our way out of humiliation.

自尊的贬低伤害我们至深，使我们如此不安，让我们想从羞辱中吼出一个出口。

Our bark may be loud but it comes from a place of extreme vulnerability.

我们的叫骂可能吵闹，但它来自于极端的脆弱。

We're living without a psychological skin.

我们活在没有心理保护膜的状况

Unfortunately, of course, live fury is guaranteed to prevent our complaint from ever being heard.

当然，不幸的是，立即的愤怒表现注定会阻止我们的抱怨被听见。

In the face of our ranting, those who've offended us, will themselves get offended, begin to resent us, refuse to listen and accuse us of a raft of things which entirely bury our original complaint against them.

面对我们咆哮，那些羞辱我们的人，自己也会被羞辱，并开始怨恨我们，拒绝去倾听，并展开大量控诉，这完全埋没了我们的原意对他们提出怨言。

We achieve nothing.

我们一无所获

There is a second option: Cold fury.

还有另一个选项：敢怒不敢言

Here one says very little but hates very deeply and quietly.

人在这种情况会说得很少，但以安静且深层的方式怨恨着

We don't dare to complain directly from a despair that the other would ever understand.

我们不敢直接提出抱怨，源自于一种绝望也就是对方永远不会了解自己。

Fuelled with a feeling that we don't deserve ever to be listened to.

火上加油的是我们觉得自己不值得被倾听

A primitive self-hatred encases us in cynicism and melancholy.

一种与生俱来的自我厌恶使我们包围在愤世嫉俗与忧郁之中

We become experts at withdrawal.

我们成为逃避的专家

We've probably been like this from a young age.

大约从很小的时候我们就这样做了

The adults we grew up around were probably too touchy, busy, domineering or absent to give us much of a hearing.

我们成长周遭的大人们可能都太易怒、太忙碌、跋扈或是无法给予我们太多倾听。

So we learn to swallow our pain and while seething inside, act with brittle courtesy and veiled aggression against those hated characters who've done us wrong.

所以我们学着吞下所有的痛苦，并在生闷气的时候表现得冷淡有礼并隐藏起攻击性，对于那些我们怨恨且待我们不佳的对象。

Then comes that far rarer achievement: Mature complaint.

接着是极其少数所能达成的：成熟的抱怨

In order to master such a feat, we must work with a background sense that we don't fundamentally deserve meanness and also that it won't on its own ever be able to destroy us.

为了达成这样的壮举，我们必须要拥有一个深根理念，我们不需要理所当然地接受恶意而且这些恶意本身并无法摧毁我们。

We are calm because we like ourselves well enough, a legacy of being cared for by people who liked us and refuse to endure punishment quietly or with masochistic patience.

我们平静，因为我们够喜欢自己，这是一个被爱的礼物，从那些喜欢着我们，并拒绝忍受无声的责罚或受虐式的忍耐。

We have the confidence not to be thrown into complete disarray by insult.

我们有信心不因羞辱而被丢入全然的混乱之中

We can seek restitution and tend to do so fairly fast while the incident is still fresh in everyone's mind but with a measured, strategic, calm manner of people secure in their right to have their say.

我们可以索取补偿并尽量在很短的时间内，当事件在每人脑中还清晰时，但以一个慎重的、策略性的、平和的方式安于自己说话权利之人会有的。

We're careful not to insult or belittle our opponents.

我们很小心不要侮辱到或轻视我们的对手

We always simply say: How we feel.

我们永远只说：我们感觉如何

Rather than declaring: You're vindictive and selfish for doing X;

而不是表明：你做某件事是不怀好意和自私的

We say: I feel hurt by the way you do X.

我们说：我因你做了某件事很受伤

We don't give others easy excuses to get insulted and block their ears in turn.

我们不轻易给他们借口来反过来说他们被侮辱了或蒙上其耳朵

We don't want to make it that simple for them.

我们不会想要让事情对他们来说变得那么简单

Nevertheless we don't have unlimited faith that people are always going to understand and accept what we're trying to tell them, yet we want to speak out anyway.

尽管如此，我们没有无止尽的信心去说别人永远会理解并接受我们试图告诉他们的，但无论如何我们仍想大声说出。

Because we know it's not good for us to swallow our complaints and we don't want ulcers.

因为我们知道吞下我们的抱怨对自己是不好的，也不想得到溃疡般的伤害。

We are at once realistic about the chances of dialogue and determine to talk in any case.

一旦我们实际的面对这样对话的机会，并决定无论如何都要谈开。

We deserve a huge amount of compassion for our failure to know how to complain wisely.

我们值得更多的恻隐之心，对于我们不知道如何有智慧的抱怨。

Our inability is a snapshot into our past and into some properly troublesome dynamics that occurred long ago.

我们的无能为力是我们的历史以及过去发生的不良动态关系的缩影。

But by sketching the ideal style of complaining, we can start to imagine what we're not natively capable of and to fill in through reason and reflection what we haven't been able to achieve through upbringing and love.

但藉由描绘理想的抱怨方式，我们能够开始想像出那些并非天生就会的东西，并回以解释及反思，对那些我们尚未能以教养及爱来达成的。

We can take our first stumbling steps on the path to mature compliant.

我们可以踏出这困难的第一步迈向成熟的抱怨。

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一、如何用英语『抱怨』

complain 英[kəmˈpleɪn] 美[kəmˈplen]
vi. 抱怨，诉苦; 申诉，控诉，抗议;
vt. 诉说，申诉，控告[后面常跟从句];
[例句]Miners have complained bitterly that the government did not fulfill their promises
矿工们愤愤不平地抱怨说政府没有履行诺言。
[其他] 第三人称单数：complains 现在分词：complaining 过去式：complained过去分词：complained

二、抱怨用英语怎么说

　　抱怨 ，指心中怀有不满，责怪别人。那么你知道抱怨用英语怎么说吗?下面跟着我一起来学习一下吧。

　　抱怨的英语说法1：

　　complain

　　抱怨的英语说法2：

　　grumble

　　抱怨相关英语表达：

　　大声抱怨 cry out

　　抱怨某事 complain about sth

　　应付抱怨 Handling Complaints

　　当面抱怨 Faced complaint

　　一些抱怨 Some complain

　　家长抱怨 parents complain

　　抱怨的英语例句：

　　1. Instead of complaining about what's wrong, be grateful for what's right.

　　别抱怨不好的事，要对好的事心存感恩。

　　2. If you're not satisfied with the life you're living, don't just complain. Do something about it.

　　对于现况的不满，不能只是抱怨，要有勇气作出改变。

　　3. Doctors are complaining about being barraged by drug-company salesmen.

　　医生们抱怨他们疲于应付医药公司的销售人员。

　　4. Faculty members complain that their students are unprepared to do college-level work.

　　学院的老师们抱怨说他们的学生还很不适应大学的课业。

　　5. Harrison complained that his colleagues ganged up on him.

　　哈里森抱怨说他的同事联手对付他。

　　6. He came to complain about the volume of the music.

　　他过来抱怨音乐的音量太高了。

　　7. People usually complain about having to deal with too much bureaucracy.

　　人们经常抱怨不得不应付太多的繁文缛节。

　　8. The investigators complained about the difficulties of squeezing information out of residents.

　　调查人员抱怨说很难从居民身上获取信息。

　　9. He topped her glass up after complaining she was a slow drinker.

　　他抱怨她喝得太慢，随即又把她的杯子续满。

　　10. The officials felt taken for granted and grumbled loudly.

　　这些官员感到受了怠慢，于是大声抱怨起来。

　　11. "How come we never know what's going on?" he groused.

　　“为什么我们对正在发生的事情总是一无所知?”他抱怨说。

　　12. Brian was whirling like a dervish, slapping at the mosquitoes and moaning.

　　布赖恩如同旋转舞蹈的托钵僧一样转来转去，一边拍打着蚊子一边抱怨不停。

　　13. People complain about how children spend so much time on computer games.

　　人们常抱怨孩子花太多时间玩电脑游戏。

　　14. At a nearby table a man was complaining in a loud voice.

　　邻桌的一位男士当时正高声地抱怨着。

　　15. He was a terrible complainer — always moaning about something.

　　他特别爱发牢骚，老是抱怨这抱怨那。

三、抱怨英语

抱怨英语是：complain。

读音：英［kəmˈpleɪn]，美［kəmˈpleɪn]。

释义：

vi.投诉；发牢骚；诉说。

vt.抱怨；控诉。

例句：Some employees have complained about their performance.

有员工对自己的业绩进行申诉。

变形：过去式complained，过去分词complained，现在分词complaining，第三人称单数complains。

短语：

complain fearfully可怕地抱怨。

complain loudly大声地抱怨。

complain of one's bad memory抱怨记忆力不好。

complain to向…抱怨。

complain的用法

complain的基本意思是“抱怨”“诉苦”。指心中对人或事物不满或身体感到不适或痛苦而对别人诉说或抱怨，有时也可表示说话者引起别人对此事的注意。

用作不及物动词时，其后可接of或about引起的短语，of后常是诉苦的内容，可为名词或动名词，而about后则是对抱怨事物概括的陈述。当表示“向…抱怨…”时，要用complain to sb of〔about〕sth结构。